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We may love watching drama unfold, but no one wants to be involved in an actual conflict. Here’s how to resolve conflict if you happen to get yourself in some drama matters.

How to Lose 10 Pounds Without Hating Your Life You've done everything to lose a little bit of weight (including that weird tea cleanse your BFF swore by) — but the scale is stubbornly stalled. Well, according to Christy Harrison, R.D., a registered dietitian in Brooklyn, N.Y., there's one thing you probably haven't tried (and it's the one thing that actually works): If you want to drop 10 pounds — drop the idea that you need to lose 10 pounds. "It's never okay to put a number on a weight loss goal," Harrison says. "The next time you think, 'I'd just feel better if I lost 10 pounds,' ask yourself where that thought's coming from. If we lived in a culture that told you your body is beautiful exactly as it is, would you still think that? If the answer is, 'Yes, I'd love to be able to chase after my kids or feel less sluggish,' OK then, let's focus on that objective." And the biggest problem? It sets you up for fail...

7 Things You Can Do to Feel Better Instantly Everybody's looking for a quick fix. Whether it's to lose weight or achieve their dreams, people are searching for the magic pill or perfect practice to make their lives "better." There's a tendency to believe that what we want is outside of who are already are. You want world peace? Ask how at peace are you with yourself, your body, and your life. You want to lose 30 pounds? Ask how much extra “baggage” are you carrying emotionally. It’s not that we’re hypocrites, most of the time we’re just not aware of the inner turmoil we have going on. You have to dive deep to find the answers you’re looking for. All that being said, there are things you can do right NOW that will help you feel better instantly. Keep in mind that you have to do these things consistently to see and feel real change in your life. 1. Breathe more deeply. I find this is especially useful when I’m eating, since it allows me to feel how full I’m ge...

For most of her life in prostitution in New Zealand, Sabrinna Valisce campaigned for decriminalisation of the sex trade. But when it actually happened she changed her mind and now argues that men who use prostitutes should be prosecuted. Julie Bindel tells her story.

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Our Souls At Night Jane Fonda and Robert Redford finally reunite on screen for this adaptation of Kent Haruf’s Colorado-set novel about finding love in later life. Despite having lived next to each other for years, Addie Moore (Fonda) and Louis Waters (Redford), both widowed, only get to know each other after Addie pays an unexpected visit on her neighbour. Then they set about making the most of the time they have left.

The Notebook Yes, you’ve cried over this insanely overwrought romance starring a young Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams a billion times already, and no, it won’t hurt to watch it again. We’re not here to judge. From October 1.

Claudio Yanez always preferred not to talk about his childhood. He kept his distance from people and threw himself into his education and career. But a government report published last year about abuses in the public child care system in Chile brought back terrible memories of being taken into care at the age of 10. This is his story.

The menopause is a puzzle for biologists. Why would the female of a species cease to reproduce half way through her life, when natural selection favours characteristics that help an individual's genes survive? A study of killer whales - one of only two mammals apart from humans to undergo the menopause - is providing clues. Granny is very spritely for a centenarian. When I finally catch sight of San Juan Island's local celebrity, she leaps clear out of the ocean to delighted gasps from everyone on my boat. Granny is a killer whale, or orca. She lives in a coastal area of the North Pacific, close to Vancouver and Seattle, known as the Salish Sea. And while she is affectionately known as "Granny", her formal name is J2 - an alpha-numeric title that identifies her as a member of a population known as the Southern Resident orcas. It is a clan of 83 killer whales in three distinct pods - J, K and L-pod - all of which return to this area of coastal Pacific waterways ...

Amazing transformation indeed!

The fashion train choo-chooed to Paris, and the fashion week in the city of love is reaching its climax. Here are some of the things that are causing a stir on the catwalks: Vive le close cut! Former British model Naomi Campbell (C-R) and fashion designer for Off White, Virgil Abloh (C-L) acknowledge the public at the end of the Off White women’s 2018 Spring/Summer ready-to-wear collection fashion show in Paris, on September 28, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / FRANCOIS GUILLOT Oversized has been cut down to size. For the last two years the catwalks have been awash with sulking teenagers hiding in their hoodies, huge trailing trousers and enormous coats inside of which you could shelter a small family and their fridge. But with the look now filtering down to the high streets, fashion is off again in another direction. Paris Fashion Week has been remarkable for how the Spring/Summer collections are bringing clothes back to the body, with a much closer cut to shake off the studied sha...

What do you do if your child frightens you? What if they seem unable to feel empathy and don't care about punishment? Children with what psychiatrists call "Callous Unemotional Traits" are more likely to go to prison and may, in extreme cases, become psychopaths in adulthood. Jane and Paul say parents in this difficult situation need more help.

Stranger Things We’ve had a long wait for the second instalment of the Duffer Brothers sci-fi smash hit, but finally the young residents of Hawkins, Indiana are back – and just in time for Halloween. The plot for the sequel has been kept firmly under wraps, but several cryptic clues released on social media suggest that the small rural town is far from being a safe haven. Get ready to binge the whole series, and then feel totally bereft when it’s finished. From October 27.

“Lots of fashion, super Valentino, ruffles, symbols – but to see them from a different perspective and make extraordinary ordinary things,” said Pierpaolo Piccioli of a collection that was wildly cheered as the models climbed the iron steps of a historic Paris lycée.

EVERYONE from the ancient Greeks to Marilyn Monroe has had a fling with fringing. Homer's Iliad is full of references to tassels; Hera, for instance, wears a tasselled belt that is said to shine "and cause excitement" and Athena wears

Ok, they might not be the most flattering trousers to be resurrected from the Nineties fashion hall of fame, but carpenter jeans (once beloved by buzzing teens in techno fields around the M25 orbital) are back, and this time they're glam. The twinset cardigan has replaced the baggy T-shirt for spring/summer 2018, and it's punked-out heels (rather than Buffalo boots) that are inspiring now. From Balenciaga to Valentino and Stella McCartney, the workaday staple has gone uptown - here's how to wear them now.

Phoebe Philo confirmed this weekend that she is still the ruling grande dame of Paris Fashion Week as she unveiled a finely-tuned collection of streetwise tailoring and shimmering sequins. Whether she's heading up a universal spring/summer 2018 trend like fringing, or converting a classic street style look (see Anna Ewers in her trench coat, track pants, and sneakers) into a grown-up fashion proposition, the British designer is the master of lol-cum-hard-as-nails chic. You simply don't fuck with a Céline woman. Here's how die-hard Philo fans can get ahead of the game this autumn.

RINCE HARRY brought his third Invictus Games to Canada this year, and with it a host of photo opportunities to see the royal at his most relaxed, not to mention his first official engagement with his girlfriend, Meghan Markle, by his side. The Games, which are organised by the prince, are close to Harry's heart, as they are played by - and raise vital funds for - wounded, injured or sick armed services personnel, many of whom he came into contact with when he was a serving member of the army. As proceedings came to a close this weekend, catch up with all the action, here.

STELLA MCCARTNEY's spring/ summer 2018 collection was a masterclass in modern dressed-down style. From the joy of jumpsuits to making taffeta look easy, here's her guide to looking great without looking like you've tried too hard

AKE note: Woolmark winner, CFDA finalist and all-round fashion favourite Gabriela Hearst is cutting the waiting list for her cult collection of leather bags and launching an exclusive edit on Net-a-Porter for one week only, giving away all of the money she makes from selling the bags to the e-commerce platform at wholesale price to Save The Children. Why you ask? The designer is attempting to raise $600,000 in the next seven days to be able to donate monthly cash transfers to families in the Turkana region of Kenya where famine and dehydration is having a devastating impact on approximately 3.5 million people. In other words, it's the most philanthropic of flash sales on the designer's part. The Ella bag, one of the styles on sale at Net-a-Porter.com "The UN is calling it the worst humanitarian emergency since World War Two," the designer told us as the collection launched online. "The drought wasn't getting enough coverage so when I learnt that Save Th...